Shellye Stanley McCarty

A celebration of life was held at the First United Methodist Church of Magee February 18 for Shellye Stanley McCarty. The Rev. Barry S. Male officiated. Mary Margaret Hyer was soloist. 

Shellye Stanley McCarty, 71, passed away February 14 at her home surrounded by her family and friends after a lengthy battle with cancer. She was born in Quitman, Miss. July 29, 1946, daughter of the late Helen Florence Atkinson Stanley and the late Fred Edwin Stanley Sr. 

She was youngest of two children and a loving mother who was known for her sweet and forgiving spirit and beautiful smile.  Mrs. McCarty was graduated from Quitman High School in 1964 where she was drum major of the band.  She was graduated from Ole Miss in 1968 with a bachelor’s degree in home economics.  At Ole Miss she was a Rebelette, Campus Cutie, Clarke County’s Miss Hospitality and University Dancer.

Mrs. McCarty touched the hearts of numerous people and made a significant impact on many different segments of various communities during her lifetime.  Her family was her life; however, she was able to extend that same love, devotion, and loyalty to her many friends in their time of need. 

Mrs. McCarty was a faithful member of the First United Methodist Church of Magee.  She served with the Jackson Symphony League; Magee Woman’s Club - past president; Magee Youth Center - past treasurer; Simpson County Junior Miss Program -  past director; Miss Simpson County Pageant - past director; Simpson County Academy - past secretary board of directors, cheerleader sponsor, PTO president; Magee Public Schools -  past member, Board of Trustees, PTA vice president; State of Mississippi YMCA - past member, Board of Directors; First Methodist Church – Past Pastor-Parish Relations Board, children’s coordinator, youth coordinator, Board of Trustees, Bible School superintendent; Brownie Scout and Cub Scout leader.

Mrs. McCarty was Phi Mu Pledge Class president, recommendations chairman and house president while attending Ole Miss.  In 1995 she helped organize the Greater Jackson Alumnae Chapter, was membership chairman 1995-96 and an executive committee member-at-large from 1996-present. 

Over the past 40 years, she served the Area and National Phi Mu offices in various capacities.  She was district collegiate director 1974-76; Delta area coordinator 1976-80; National Council member-at-large 1980-84; Epsilon area collegiate director 1989; National Collegiate vice president 1990-92 and National Membership team coordinator 1996-present. 

She was on the Alpha Delta Advisory Council for 23 years; Alpha Delta House Corporation member and officer; Gamma Epsilon adviser; Special Supervisor at various times for Alpha Delta, Alpha Omicron, Epsilon, Epsilon Alpha, Epsilon Kappa, Delta Kappa, and Xi Kappa; National Blue Ribbon Task Force. 

She worked as a volunteer with chapters in Mississippi and Kentucky on rush and membership recruitment; and she continuously recruited collegiate chapter members to apply for Chapter Consultants and alumnae members to get actively involved either on a local, area or national level. 

Additionally, Mrs. McCarty was a Phi Mu Foundation board member from 1982-84; Foundation Board second vice president 1993-96; Endowed Scholarship for President of Alpha Delta Chapter; she coordinated Endowing of Scholarship in honor of Alpha Delta Alumna and retired housemother, Deane H. Chrestman; she was a charter member of Fidelity Society; founding member of 1852 Society and a Medallion Level Giver.

Mrs. McCarty was the first recipient of Jackson Alumnae Panhellenic Athena Award for Outstanding Contributions to Community and Sorority by a Sorority Alumna.  She received “Sparkplug” Award from Andrew Jackson Council of Boy Scouts for her contributions to scouting. 

Mrs. McCarty is survived by her daughter Mary Helen McCarty Griffis; husband Judge T. Kenny Griffis Jr. of Ridgeland and their children Sean Michael O’Hara, Thomas Kenneth Griffis III, Edwin McCarty Griffis, Robert Samuel Griffis, and Parker Brooks Griffis; son Michael Anderson McCarty of Magee; brother Fred Edwin Stanley Jr. and his wife Helen Lehmann Stanley of Waynesboro; John R. McCarty of Brandon, father of Mary Helen and Michael; sister-in-law Patti McCarty Sullivan and her husband Jerry M. Sullivan Jr. of Ridgeland; brother-in-law Donald H. Flynt of Flowood; brother-in-law Terry B. Wells of Ridgeland; nieces Rachel Stanley Warren, her husband Mitchell and their children Walker, Jackson, Katy Rix and Stella of Kingwood, Texas; Elizabeth Stevens Buyan and her husband Greg of Jackson; Angela F. Urbina and her husband Javier of Brandon; Ashley W. Hullender and her husband Tripp of Atlanta; Leslie W. Baskin and her husband Brad  of Jackson; Kelly Sullivan Hirn and her husband Chad of Ridgeland; nephews Jacob Keahey Stanley, his wife Kristen and their children Rachel, Ella and Caroline of Waynesboro; Charles Edwin Stanley of Redding, Calif.; Alex Stevens and his wife Lauren of Nashville; Allen M. Flynt and his wife Dacia of Mount Washington, Ky.; Mack Sullivan of Jackson; Ryan Sullivan and his wife Alayna of Charleston, S.C.; along with numerous cousins, aunts, great-nieces and nephews, other extended family members and a host of friends. 

In addition to her parents, she was preceded in death by her sisters-in-law Mary Ellen McCarty, Marsha McCarty Wells, Katherine McCarty Flynt, father-in-law, H.F. McCarty Jr. and mother-in-law Mary Ann Henry McCarty.

Memorials may be made to the H.F. McCarty Jr. Family Foundation, 6360 I-55 North, Suite 480, Jackson, Miss., 39211. 

Pallbearers were Jacob Keahey Stanley, Walker Lehmann Warren, Allen McCarty Flynt, William Alexander Stevens, III, Scott Foster Harris and Dr. Thomas R. Blackledge.

Interment was in Magee City Cemetery.

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